The hardest thing I've ever had to do.... ever

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Don, I knew that was coming.  Was surprised you hadn't made that move earlier.  I knew it was a strain on you.  You have been an extra good husband.  Prayers for you and her.  God bless.

Thanks Frank, it took a while, not only because my commitment to her, but we would have been broke inside a year if I had to do this on our own dime. It was years before I found even one program that would help. That lead to another and another, then finally to ALTECS, the Arizona long-term care administrators. We applied in November, and it took ten months to get all the paperwork in and do what I needed to do in order to have her qualify. Even then, I wasn't sure that I wanted to do this, but, when I started to become on a first-name basis with the Surprise Fire Dep't, having called 911 at least a half-dozen times this past month, I knew it was time.

If there are others here that are struggling as caregivers or know someone who is, and they need help, there's a chance I can point you in the right direction. I was at Brenda's Kitchen for breakfast this morning and there's this one guy that his wife is in a wheelchair. He stopped me and asked about the help I was getting. These programs are there to help, but are difficult to connect with.